The time to get out of your toxic
relationship is right now!
Get healthy and get out.
There was a time she made you feel like a god. You felt strong, confident and powerful in your own body. You woke up excited to conquer the world. It was one of the best times in your life.
When you looked in the mirror, you liked the man you saw. You had energy and positivity. Other people could feel this, you were unstoppable.
She made you feel like a god.
Then something changed. That girlfriend or sweet little princess you married turned into a nightmare. At first you were the most amazing person she’d ever met, now you’re just a disappointment. You’re always to blame for the problems in your relationship and no matter how hard you try you can never make things right.
You find yourself chasing the bliss and happy feelings you felt in the beginning but they always slip away and if they do come back, they never last. The constant fights and disharmony have caused you to hate yourself, your life and you don’t know how to escape it. She may have even called you a narcissist and now you’re doubting yourself.
Now you only feel guilty and confused
This hasn’t just being going on for months, it’s been years, maybe even decades. To cope with these negative feelings you’ve turned to distraction and self destructive habits. Alcohol, junk food, shopping, gambling, hours spent alone or way to much time on your phone doing things you’d rather not admit.
You feel guilty, angry, confused and despair all the time, it’s slow suicide and you know it’s gotta stop.
With a household to support, friends and family relying on you, a job and kids looking up to you as their role model, you feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. You feel like the stress is going to overwhelm you or someday maybe even end you.
There is a way out.
Much like the Greek Titan Atlas who was condemned to hold up the heavens and the sky for eternity. You might feel condemned to this life forever to, like you can never escape or the way out will cost you too much.
I’m telling you it’s time for this Atlas to rise! To regain his manhood and dignity. To feel whole, proud and strong again. To look into the mirror and like the man he sees starting back at him. You deserve this and you can do it with some help from those that have been there.
I’m here to tell you there’s hope. There’s a way to end this abusive torture. You’re not alone and this isn’t unique to your relationship. If this sounds like your life, you’re probably in a relationship with someone who has a Cluster B Personality Disorder.
These include Narcissism, Vulnerable Narcissism, Borderline Personality Disorder and Histrionic Personality Disorder.
Signs you’re in a toxic relationship
You’re on a website like this. (Ya, you can probably just stop here).
You feel drained, unhappy or angry much of the time.
You don’t trust yourself and your partner makes you question your own sanity or view of reality.
You’re walking on eggshells. Careful with every word and action so you don’t set your partner off.
You spend countless hours researching ways to communicate better with your partner.
You feel isolated.
You frequently find yourself to blame in an argument, while your partner never seems to be at fault.
You feel unsafe to speak your mind around your partner.
You’re constantly sacrificing your needs to keep your partner happy.
Why is everyone’s ex a narcissist?
Stop being nice and set some damn boundaries
How not to grow apart
Are you a good listener? You might be an empath and you may be in trouble.
You might be an empath
If your whole life, complete strangers have been routinely sharing their innermost secrets with you. Panhandlers single you out in a group and energy vampires like narcissists are attracted to you like catnip. You are probably highly empathic.
If you don’t know what an empath is, it’s someone who is highly sensitive to the emotions and energy of others. They tend to be very intuitive, compassionate, and people sense that they are good listeners, non-judgmental, and have a calming presence. This is what makes them feel safe opening up to It’s like they instinctively know you’ll understand them, even if you don’t say much.
Being empathic is a blessing and a curse. On the one hand you’ll have deeper richer relationships, understand and get along with people better personally and professionally….but there’s literally a target on your back. People with Narcissist personality disorder crave attention and feed on attention energy, to them you’re a limitless supply and they will suck you dry if you allow it. If you pair up with a Narc, you’ll find a few things.
The conversation always seems to be about them.
Your turn to talk never comes.
If you try to turn the conversation away from the Narc, they get angry or passive aggressive.
If you do get to speak (usually in the lovebombing phase) you sense they aren’t really listening.
If you find this going on, it’s best you cut ties and run the other way. The longer you stay in a relationship with a Narc the uglier it gets.